single parents, look here! are you worried? This post is for you. Single parenting is a stressful and fulfilling job. It was a question mark in the past decades but now according to states in the UK, one of the five children is raised by single parents either single mothers or fathers. Single parenting is hectic for both ( mother and father) as there are so many responsibilities that need to fulfill for raising a successful and confident child.
Being a single parent is an emotional and challenging task but sometimes it is relaxing. As in the case of my friend when she was in an unhealthy relationship and there was abuse in her marital life. She decides to leave her husband and raise her three children alone. Now she is happy as there is nothing to hide from children.
No one can handle the other's issue but yes few tips can raise morale and change the perspective. These few tips that I will give in this post will help you to settle and feel relaxed.
Learn To Move On
Life is the one chance and we all have to live it once. Bad experiences are just experiences not make their full life. Take a lesson and move on the path of life as your children are looking up to you. Being a Single parent is not a bad thing. Single parents are stronger and more passionate about raising kids.
Amid to live in a toxic relationship and showing the scar and bad gestures to your ids is more harmful than to separate. Whether you are a mother or father, your ultimate goal is your kids. Also, teach your children that sticking to one event can spoil your life so leave all the mess and move into the next phase of your life.
Be Independent And Focused
Single mothers, listen this is for you. Don’t depend on others for your finances. You can do more what you think about yourself. As a girl or woman even if you are in a healthy relationship, it is not ok at all to be dependent on your spouse for your finance. This will make you a coward. As single-parent dust of your skills and come into the field. You have to earn to fulfill the desire of your kids. I know so many single mothers who are raising healthy and happy kids and running a successful business.
Rather weep on the thing you dont have, earn and spend. Set a goal in your life and it will help you in growth and raise children alone. Life as a working single mother can be difficult but all you need is focus and courage.
Single Parents Don’t Hesitate To Ask For Help
If you are thinking you are alone and have to fight alone, maybe this is true sometimes. The involvement of crew in your life can disturb your routine and family values. But keep a note of those people to whom you can call on difficult days, either a busy office day or a visit to the hospital.
It is your battle to raise your kids alone but there is always an army at the backup who is ready to join you whenever you are in need. So loved ones are ready to take care of your kids as love runs in the generation. Whether you are a single mother or father you ask your parents, friends, or any neighbor to take care of your id in any emergency situation. States are also coming up on the front to help single parents. Put your suspicious glasses aside and look around to uncover the new opportunities for relationship building.
You can also have a contact of daycare in case of emergencies but for that, you must be financially stable or supported. So it is a piece of pro advice for single parents, learn to manage and save for emergencies. You have to be responsible and strict about your decisions.
Believe In Yourself
You can do more what you are thinking to do, or whatever you are doing.
Prove yourself strong when you decided to raise your, kids, as a single parent, so dont look back but focus on your destination. When your kids and you will be at a new destination and enjoying their life as a happy family. You are brave darling. As check out the scenario from where you are coming. Bearing the trauma of being single parents either divorced or widow, is unbelievable. When you are out and moving forward then believe in yourself you can do everything.
Write down the happenings with the dates and move on, a time will come when you will see what mess you left behind and what a reward you are receiving. You are the superpower of your kids and your confident behavior will allow them to think out of the box and do wonders.
Mood Swings Are Ok……. but not forever
After the death of a lovely partner or leaving your partner after the struggling phase is a difficult and emotional time. it s ok o be emotional ad have mood swings. Yelling, crying and sadness are part of life but dont let them be with you forever.
Take a time to absorb that situation, act, get up, dust off and move in. This is all you kids demanding from you and it will give them the lesson that it is ok to be hurt, sad and crying but every stage is temporary and it will pass out and also the mood and feelings.
Fix Positive Strategies
Fix some rules in your life
Be Expressive
Learn to say “I love you”, “I care for you”, and other emotional words to your kids, it will build your bond. If you are struggling with how to build bonds then this article will help you.
Set Night Rituals
Fix some talk and storytime, to build your bonding
Eat Like A Family
Does not matter how many people you are at home, but eat like a family and discuss things. This positive way will keep you all together.
Play Games
Give time to your children and play games
Play card
Dumb charades
Sing a song
Or either play ant physical games such as cricket and football etc.
Go For A Walk
Early morning interaction with your children in an open-air will e enough to build a bond and to keep freshens your relation.
Discuss Schedule
Tell them about your struggle and take them in confidence, this will build positivity in their heart and will take care of you.
It is commonly said awareness makes a person responsible.
Stay Positive
Dont think or say negatively. Take of yourself. Give a treat to yourself. This will make you happy.
Join Single Parents Community
Try to attend the single parent’s seminars, meet other single parents this will not only teach you to raise kids alone but also motivate you that there are so many people facing the same situation.
Don’t Be Shy To Talk About Being A Single Parent
There is nothing bad in single parenting. Whether you are divorced or widow, accept the reality and discuss it openly with your kids and others. Give a lesson to your kids it is better to live alone than to live in a difficult and bitter relationship. Dont be shy to tell others, maybe your story helps others in deciding their life path.
It is Ok To Have Less
Eating less, Spending less is normal. If you are working hard and earning not much then it is totally ok. You are more important to your kids than money. Dont be stressed.
It’s ok to say “no” sometimes as you cant financially swing it. So tell the reality to your children and they will settle with you.
Everyone does not have an equal financial condition and it is the law of nature.
Guilt Is Not The Solution
Guilt is normal in single parenting. You can feel guilty for saying “No” to your kids or not providing that life standard that was before. So dont focus on things you are unable to provide, do focus on what you are doing for them and how important is your love and affection for them.
Sometimes you can feel guilt about divorce, so dont shy to ask for help and join divorce communities to discuss things. This will change your life perspective.
Verdict
Single parenting demands double struggle encourage then parenting. So here is a huge shot out to all the single parents who scarify their lives for raising good and responsible kids. Which tip you are going to follow, tell me in the comments.
Thank you.
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